Actually, as a male who uses OKC, I found it interesting to simply note "the curse of being cute." My takeaway is that there are some "conventionally cute" women who you find attractive, and who you also assume receive a lot of attention. It turns out, many others assume the same, and so end up not sending a message.

Putting this into action, then, means to take more initiative messaging someone who you assume must be receiving a lot of attention.