First off, you need women on your dating site. That's it. Just like bars, you don't need to target guys, they will just go where the women also are.
I'm not a girl, but the top reasons that I hear about from girls in regards to online dating. 1) there's still a stigma about online dating that some girls won't get over. 2) too many "creeps" who message them. 3) they fear they are getting "played" or are getting a message from someone who just spams the same message. 4) they get way too many messages to sort through.
In fact most girls try to set up filters, "Don't message me if you can't spell or if you don't know the difference between, 'your' and 'you're'". Honestly though I find it hard to believe that girls are that concerned with spelling.
I, as a guy, have to deal with having to prove to girls that I'm not creepy, or spamming message, and on top of that have to message them something to catch their attention. Personally, it's even worse for me when the girl has nothing at all in her profile for me to ask them about.
So what I suggest is, automatically filter out "hey whats up gurl" messages for women. Conversely also filter out any messages that are more than 2 paragraphs in length. Show women pictures and have them rate the pictures by whether or not they would date said person then algorithmically find people on the site that look similar to pictures she favored.
I'm trying to think of some more, but basically make it easier for girls to filter out people they would never date. And somehow make it easier for the guy to know that the girl has some interest in him, besides weird, "winks" and icebreakers.
How about a site where guys / girls set up challenges that guys have to perform in order to be able to contact them?
* Write a 250 word essay about your favorite british guitar pop
* Make a video of you cooking something using pumpkin (my favorite)
* Write me a song using the words panda and musk rat, and about Michigan (bonus points for name dropping the coffee shop with the best cheesecake in town - you'll know it if you've been)
The obvious solution is to limit the number of messages that guys can send. I'm surprised none of the sites (AFAIK) do that, it seems like a win for both genders.
I'm not a girl, but the top reasons that I hear about from girls in regards to online dating. 1) there's still a stigma about online dating that some girls won't get over. 2) too many "creeps" who message them. 3) they fear they are getting "played" or are getting a message from someone who just spams the same message. 4) they get way too many messages to sort through.
In fact most girls try to set up filters, "Don't message me if you can't spell or if you don't know the difference between, 'your' and 'you're'". Honestly though I find it hard to believe that girls are that concerned with spelling.
I, as a guy, have to deal with having to prove to girls that I'm not creepy, or spamming message, and on top of that have to message them something to catch their attention. Personally, it's even worse for me when the girl has nothing at all in her profile for me to ask them about.
So what I suggest is, automatically filter out "hey whats up gurl" messages for women. Conversely also filter out any messages that are more than 2 paragraphs in length. Show women pictures and have them rate the pictures by whether or not they would date said person then algorithmically find people on the site that look similar to pictures she favored.
I'm trying to think of some more, but basically make it easier for girls to filter out people they would never date. And somehow make it easier for the guy to know that the girl has some interest in him, besides weird, "winks" and icebreakers.