Does it still depend if finding out what the offer is will derail you for 3 months and almost certainly result in an unsatisfactory answer (or worse)?
I think that's his point: In theory you might like to know the answer, but in practice unless you are in a very strong or very weak position (and know it), you shouldn't let yourself be distracted this way, as it is incredibly unlikely to be worth the time.
I think that's his point: In theory you might like to know the answer, but in practice unless you are in a very strong or very weak position (and know it), you shouldn't let yourself be distracted this way, as it is incredibly unlikely to be worth the time.